A Woman's Super Power

Looking back over our twenty two years of marriage, I think one of my favorite lines my husband ever says to me is, "You like having 'the power', don't you?" Basically what he's saying is, "You know I can't say no to you!" I love it!

Every woman, every where has a certain amount of "power" over men. Sometime it come in the form of the ability to charm our way into getting what we want, the ability to help influence big decisions, or the ability to turn a mans head with our beauty. As you  might have guessed, that's a lot of power, and that power, just like any other, can be used for bad or good.

Many men have been led astray by women who use their charms for evil. In Second Kings 21:25, there is an interesting statement made about a woman. "No one else so completely sold himself to what was evil in the Lord's sight as Ahab did under the influence of his wife, Jezebel." That's a pretty condemning statement. The writer of this book not only recorded the evil that Ahab had done, but also took the time to point out that Ahab had been influenced by his wife to do these evil things. In this case, death and destruction came to this man's house because he gave in to his woman.

But what about the reverse of this story? What happens to the family when a woman uses her powers for good? There are many many stories of influential women in the Bible, but one of my favorite women is Abigail. In 1 Samuel 25, David sent some of his young men to Nabal with greetings of peace and prosperity along with a request for kindness and shelter. Naba, the Bible says,  screamed and cursed at the men saying that he didn't know who this David is and why should he help out and provide for this David's servants. When David heard what had happened he was furious. He told his men to strap on their swords. 

Let me point out here that Nabal, at this point, has one good thing going for him. Before all of this occurred there is a statement made about Nabal and  his wife. Look at verse three, "This man's name was Nabal, and his wife, Abigail, was a sensible woman. But Nabal, a descendant of Caleb, was crude and mean in all his dealings." Nabal was given to violence and anger but Nabal's wife was sensible. This sensible, and if I might add - courageous woman, soon found out that David was coming to destroy her home, her children and her servants. Abigail began to gather gifts to be used as peace offerings to present to David, the very man that was about to destroy her entire household. Abigail rides down to where David and his men are and stops right in front of them. This is her request,"I accept all the blame in this matter…I know Nabal is a wicked and ill-tempered man; please don't pay any attention to him. He is a fool, just as his name suggests."(verses 24-25) Abigail then proceeds to pronounce curses on all of David's enemies and blessings on the house of David. She recognizes his courage and his kindness. She sweet talked him! AND she changed his mind. That day, Abigail used her womanly powers to save her household!

So today, what kind of woman are you? 

What kind of woman are you teaching your daughter to be? 

What kind of woman are you influencing others to be?

How will you affect your home with your "Womanly Powers?"

The One Hit Wonder

We all know the songs "Cotton Eye Joe", "Kung Fu Fighting",  and "Who Let the Dogs Out", but the one thing these songs have in common is that the bands that sang these songs never had another big hit. These bands were all one hit wonders. They showed up, sang a catchy song and were pretty much never heard of again.

In 2 Kings chapter 4, we read about the woman from Shunem. This woman and her husband befriended God's prophet Elisha. In fact, the two of them had a room built onto their home for Elisha so that any time  he was in town, he would have a place to stay.  The woman and her husband never asked for anything in return. Elisha and his servant Gehazi, noticed that the woman had no children and prayed to God on her behalf. The woman from Shunem became pregnant and gave birth to a son the following year. All was right with the world, until one day, the young boy was working in the fields with his father when he suddenly became ill. The boy died later that day in his mothers arms. The mother carried the boy up to Elisha's room and laid him on Elisha's bed, then she went directly to Elisha. The broken hearted mother saw God raise her son back to life that day. Undoubtedly, there was much celebration in the household that day.

End of Story…right?

No! In second Kings 8, we read again about the woman from Shunem. A famine is about to take over the land so Elisha finds the woman, now widowed, and warns her about the famine. He tells her to go to the land of the Philistines and stay there until the famine has passed. She and her son will be saved. So the woman leaves her home, her people, her possessions and does as the prophet of God tells her. After the famine is over, the woman returns to her homeland, just as she was told. Her plan is to go to the king and ask him to restore her property to her and allow her to live out her days in the land. As she enters the palace, guess who is there? Elisha's servant Gahazi. He is talking to the king. Can you guess what the conversation was about? At the very moment that the woman arrived in the palace, the king and Gahazi were talking about the woman from Shunam and the time that Elisha raised her son from the dead. Gahazi turned around and pointed at the woman and said, "Look, my lord the king!…Here is the woman now, and this is her son - the very one Elisha brought back to life!" (2Kings 8:5) God had already prepared the heart of the king to provide for this woman and her son. 

Many times we read fantastic stories about real people in the Bible and we forget about them. This story was one of those for me. The story of how God provided for the woman from Shunem was a one hit wonder to me. I knew about the beginning of her story. God gave her a son and then he raised her son from the dead, BUT God is not a one hit wonder. He was there for her entire story, from beginning to end. He was there when she cared for his prophet. God was there when she had no children of her own. God was there when her son died. God was there to bring her through to the end of her story.

Friends, hold onto the times that God has shown Himself faithful to you in the past. Trust Him. Have faith in Him. He will not abandon you.

 God is not a "one hit wonder".

A Prayer of Dedication

(This is a personal prayer of dedication for myself, my family and fellow believers based on Solomon's dedication of the temple as found in 1 Kings 8.)

A Prayer of Dedication

Lord, you are my God and there is no one like you in Heaven or Earth.

You are faithful. You have given me love that I could not earn and mercy that I do not deserve.

You have never broken a promise. Your Words are truth.

Lord, the whole Heaven can not contain you, and yet you have chosen to live here,

not in a building made by hands, but here in my heart.

You have placed your name on me.

You have called me your child.

Because of your name, Lord, I ask these things of you.

Would you watch over me and my family night and day?

When I remember that you have placed your name on me, hear my prayer.

Hear my prayers when I come in humility, when I remember what you have done for me.

Hear me. Forgive me.

Not just me Lord, but my family also.

I pray that they would see what you have done in my life and that in seeing they too will turn to you and call on your name.

When I hurt somebody or wrong another person, help me to turn to you.

Punish the guilty and redeem the innocent, because of your name.

If sin causes me to be defeated in my spiritual walk, if sin causes financial struggles or a loss of health,

help me to remember that you have placed your name on me. 

When I turn to you, hear my prayer of confession and forgive my sins.

Restore what was broken and set my eyes again on You.

When my family and friends see me, I pray they will not see me but that they will see 

that your name is on me. 

When they turn to you, set your name on their hearts.

Then, let us be a strong unit, praying and worshiping and serving together.

Lord, when we pray about our troubles, let us lift our hands to you in desperation.

Lord, hear our prayers. 

Judge our hearts, because only you can.

Look down and see your name on our hearts.

Heal our sicknesses.

Provide our needs.

Let us walk strongly in you.

Then, when future generations - when the world - sees us, they will know how great your name is.

They will know of your mercy and of your great love, because when they ask Who healed you? How can this be? We will tell them of you. Your name will be praised.

When the world challenges our beliefs and we look to you, 

plead our case and defend us. 

When we sin against you, we know you will be angry and rightfully so. We know there will be consequences. But in that discipline, we will have the opportunity to repent and call on your name.

The name you have placed on all who believe in you.

If we turn to you with our whole heart, 

hear us and forgive us.

Restore our place with you.

You have saved us for your glory. You have placed your name on our hearts.

Forgive us for your glory.

Lord, keep your eyes open to the things I have asked of you and to the prayers of all who love you.

Please, hear and answer when we call out to you.

Those you have saved, you have also set apart for your glory.

We are your own precious possession.

You have placed your name on us.

You have chosen to live in our hearts.

May you receive all glory.

~AMEN~

To Fight or To Forgive

Social media has taken over our lives!
We send a SnapChat when we get ice-cream. #brainfreeze
We post selfies on Instagram and wait with great anticipation to see who "likes" our photos. #hangingwithmybestie
We blab to our Facebook friends about our personal problems then can't understand why people are gossiping about us. #thestruggleisreal
We Tweet about the concert we just attended.  "Epic night…Pentatonix Kelly Clarkson rocked it" #datenight

It's all in great fun…until it's not.

I recently had the unfortunate opportunity to watch as a friendship unravelled on social media. Harsh comments were made. Indirect cries for attention were posted on walls, and finally a public "Dear John" kind of Facebook post ended what once had been a beautiful friendship with so much potential. My heart broke for all parties involved. 

I wanted to cry out, "Stop! Please, you don't know what you are doing!" In 2 Corinthians 2, Paul is dealing with members of the church about how to heal broken friendships and how to react when someone hurts you.  Verse 7 has this to say.  "Now, however, it is time to forgive and comfort him. Otherwise he may be overcome by discouragement. So I urge you to reaffirm your love for him." What would our marriages look like, what power would our churches have, what strong friendships could be forged, if we were willing to put our own feelings aside and choose love and forgiveness? God is in the restoration business; yet we, his children, tear each other down when we get our feelings hurt. 

Paul goes on to tell us that he has watched and tested the congregation to see if they would respond correctly to their differences. Then in verse 10 and 11 he tells his people that it is only by God's grace that he can forgive just as he has taught them to forgive.  He also makes a strong declaration about who the real enemy is and what damage their unforgiving attitude has caused. ("…when I forgive whatever needs to be forgiven, I do so with Christ's authority for your benefit. So that Satan will not outsmart us. For we are familiar with his schemes.") When someone hurts us and we retaliate instead of choosing to forgive, we strengthen Satan's attacks against us. When we wear our feelings on our sleeves, we are not allowing the Holy Spirit to guide our lives. Paul is not saying it is easy to make these choices. He is saying it is the right thing to do and he chooses to forgive because Christ has forgiven him and because he chooses to consider others first. It's a choice we make - a choice with eternal repercussions. 

Friends don't let friends toy with the enemy. 

Friends fight together against a common enemy, not against each other.

Let's forgive each other, so that the enemy doesn't have his way in our own lives.

Let's forgive others, because it is eternally beneficial.

~ All Scripture from NLT

We Never Give Up

"All of this is for your benefit.

And as God's grace reaches more and more people, 

there will be great thanksgiving, and God will receive more and more glory.

That is why we never give up…"

2 Corinthians 4:15-16

Sunday after Sunday they show up with a smile. They extend their hand and ask how you are doing. They are faithful. Pastors, youth pastors, children's ministers, Sunday school teachers and music ministers selflessly listen and serve. Many times we look at that smile and extended hand and think, "This guy's got it all together." What we don't know is that he may be struggling with a rebellious teenager. She may have just found out she has cancer. They may have an adult child who doesn't want to have any contact with them. His aging father may not make it through the week.  Are they covering their struggles in order to fake a happy life? No, they are choosing to set aside their personal needs because of the importance and the magnitude of the message they have to bring. "All of this is for your benefit."(vs 15) 

Any person in ministry will tell you, "Look, I am human just like you." Ministers and Sunday school teachers have struggles with finances, health, raising a family, caring for aging parents and stress just like the rest of us. In verse 18 Paul says, "So we don't look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever." On a daily basis, ministers must choose to look at the here and now and remember to focus on the eternal.

Does this "eternal focus" erase the present struggles? No, it doesn't. Let me challenge you to do three things this week. (1) Pray for your church staff. (2) Send a note or text of encouragement to them. (3) Check your own focus. Are you focusing on the present through the eyes of eternity? (4) When you feel like throwing in the towel, remember why "...we never give up."

May God receive all the glory.

Amen

We Stopped Relying On Ourselves

Have you ever been so frustrated with a situation that you threw up your hands in defeat and cried out, "I am SO over this!"? If you're like me, you've probably actually been there many times. In 1 Corinthians 1 Paul writes about a time when he found himself at a very low point - a point of despair.

Verses 8-9a say this. "We were crushed and overwhelmed beyond our ability to endure, and we thought we would never live through it. In fact, we expected to die." Now, that is a pretty low point. I mean, circumstances had become so bad for Paul that death seemed like the only way out. But look at the rest of this passage. "But as a result, we stopped relying on ourselves and learned to rely only on God, who raises the dead." Wow! If Paul had not gone through those near death experiences, he would  have never learned to trust God and turn to Him for every situation. Because of overwhelming circumstances, Paul learned to trust the power of God. In fact, Paul goes on to say that because of the lessons he learned in the hard times, he now has hope for the future. (vs. 10 "And he did rescue us from mortal danger, and he will rescue us again. We have placed our confidence in him, and he will continue to rescue us.)

I pray that when life gets unbearable, when there is no answer in sight, when my health fails we will look back on the times that God has brought us through and that we will hope in the One who has the power to raise the dead. My friend, don't be discouraged.

Trust in the Lord! 

He will continue to rescue! 

He will save!

~ All Scriptures from NLT.

Enough Already

"Fear God"

Enough with the Christian cliche . Let's not put it on our Christian
t-shirts, on our Christian coffee mugs, on our Christian bumper stickers, on our Christian smart phone covers, on our Christian throw pillows, or on our Christian jewelry.

Instead, let's put it to real use in our Christian lives. Put it into our school work. Put it into our career decisions. Put it into our financia...l decisions. Put it into our friendships. Put it into raising our children. Put it into our marriage vows.

But keep it off our stuff!

It's not a slogan.

It's not a suggestion.

It's a way of life, and it's the only way that we can honestly approach God ready to worship. Please, do not confuse worship with music. Although music does have it's place, the two are not necessarily one and the same.

"Fear God"
It's a way of life.

Ecclesiastes 5:7